Husband/bisexuality/sexual abuse
Posted: Mon Aug 20, 2018 1:47 am
Hello all
I am here to ask for some input. I know every persons struggle with sexual abuse is different but any thoughts are appreciated.
My husband and I have been happily married for 9 years. We have 3 great kids. He is bisexual which I have known from day one. We met at 14 and have been best friends for 20 years. I have always known about his history of sexual abuse from multiple sources including his biological father. Recently after starting therapy he has had what i have called a crisis. Basically his trauma has re surfaced and he is now for the first time feeling all the grief and anger and sadness. Part of what has come up is that he is realizing how much of his life now is a product of his abuse. He has begun questioning if the reason he never actively dated men and ended up with me is a result of the abuse in that his emotions have always been muted and maybe he doesnt know what love is? Maybe thats why hes only ever been attracted to one woman (me). He believe he loves me and says none of his feelings have changed but is spiraling and questioning literally every intimate relationship and choice hes ever made. Id love to know if anyone has experienced anything like this? He does not want to seperate as he fundamentally believes that he will work it all out and still very much want to remain with me. Its all very confusing. Thanks!
I am here to ask for some input. I know every persons struggle with sexual abuse is different but any thoughts are appreciated.
My husband and I have been happily married for 9 years. We have 3 great kids. He is bisexual which I have known from day one. We met at 14 and have been best friends for 20 years. I have always known about his history of sexual abuse from multiple sources including his biological father. Recently after starting therapy he has had what i have called a crisis. Basically his trauma has re surfaced and he is now for the first time feeling all the grief and anger and sadness. Part of what has come up is that he is realizing how much of his life now is a product of his abuse. He has begun questioning if the reason he never actively dated men and ended up with me is a result of the abuse in that his emotions have always been muted and maybe he doesnt know what love is? Maybe thats why hes only ever been attracted to one woman (me). He believe he loves me and says none of his feelings have changed but is spiraling and questioning literally every intimate relationship and choice hes ever made. Id love to know if anyone has experienced anything like this? He does not want to seperate as he fundamentally believes that he will work it all out and still very much want to remain with me. Its all very confusing. Thanks!