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nice to meet you, welcome.
sorry for what you have been through and its impact on you. do you have a therapist to work with? that could help along with all you are already doing.
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I totally understand. There is something about being hurt a lot that leads to a lack of trust. In my situation I call it "always watching for the backdoor". I work hard at trusting my spouse. He has earned that trust but it I am very careful still even after all these years. It isn't him. It is me... and for darn good reason.
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What's most interesting about the study is they conclude that trauma and stress during the formative years resides the brain. The part of the brain that pushes you into "fight if flight" mode is always on high alert. There's no middle ground, no moderation. Add a little stress and the switch goes from off to on. Someone didn't pick up milk at the grocery store? Someone cut you off in traffic? Your SO made an off the cuff remark that didn't sit well? Your brain floods your body with all of the same chemicals it would if a bear started chasing you in the woods.
Look into it. Talk to your therapist. I'm talking to mine this week about it. I'm going to see if there's treatment out there. It's amazing how damaging it is and what it can lead to.
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