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Re: There: 2019

Post by there » Fri Jun 14, 2019 8:47 pm

No name and reisha.
Thanks for your thoughtful posts.
Fortunately, the "waste of space" thought was isolated. I don't have many of those anymore.
Was definitely triggered by some things, and then had grief for a day.
That behind me, I am moving more fully into a spiritual place.
People will try to upset me, that's life.
Working on developing that" letting go muscle'.
I was called "a pompous lady" today, because I'm not thrilled about a new casino coming in. I stood up to him. Can't believe this person still has my phone number. I will not be doing any associating with him and I'm kind of sorry I took a ride from him today.

When people are rude I feel lonely and isolated. But I'm not going to let people get my goat. My goat is grazing peacefully in his pasture.

Noname, thank you for saying that I matter. You matter to me as well.
Riesha, thanks for saying that I am creatively intelligent.

I will make the effort to focus on those positive things you have all said.

I
“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.” Helen Keller

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Re: There: 2019

Post by reisha » Sat Jun 15, 2019 8:06 am

Pompus lady?!?!?! Rotfflmsnhao!!!!(skinny, nude, hippie...)
Omg! That cracks me up! Can we call ya that too?
Yeah, There, yer themost pompus lady ino! ( tryinnot tochoke, snarfin over that one!)
Sounds hes a pompus jackass!
Pompus is not a word that comes to mind when i thinka ya,There.
Still chucklin.

But seriously, sorry to read ya had that thrown at ya.
& veryhappy to read bout yer goat😉

Hope ya havea deliteful wkend!

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Re: There: 2019

Post by Couragetoday » Sat Jun 15, 2019 1:50 pm

Hey there,

I can relate to working on exercising that “letting go“ muscle.
Or as I’m also coming to realize, for me, responding from my highest, most “wisest“ self, if that makes sense.
Not easy stuff!!!

When I first read your post yesterday, how someone called you “A pompous lady” I of course immediately thought that was inappropriate and hurtful. I actually just looked up the definition of the word pompous and my goodness, that word would never come to mind describing you! If someone was purposely trying to hurt you, they did a terrible job as that comment just doesn’t fit!
What a hurtful comment and I’m sorry that it was said to you.

Here’s to a really good weekend. Hopefully there is some sunshine out your way. Lots of rain here again today.

Couragetoday

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Re: There: 2019

Post by there » Sat Jun 15, 2019 4:43 pm

reisha and Couragetoday,
Yeah, 'pompous' isn't a word anybody who knows me would use to describe me. Considering the source— —the guy who called me pompous--I realize he's one of those Hurt people who hurt people. After he said that, I turned him and said, 'I should know better than to even have an opinion around you.'

He will always start an argument no matter what I say. I gave him a bottle of sparkling spring water for giving me the ride. That will be less ride I take with him. Ever. He's really just a big pain in the butt in sheep's clothing.

Mostly I wrote it here so I didn't keep it in my head all night. I'm still sorting out what to do to get a student to be more respectful. I'm feeling more settled about that now to, accessing my 'higher, wiser mind'.

It really is important to laugh at the insanity people come out with. I guess it's that balance of vigilance with discernment.

Thanks for the kind words and laughter.

I know I'll find truth here.
“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.” Helen Keller

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Re: There: 2019

Post by Noname » Sun Jun 16, 2019 3:59 pm

Hi there,

It's good that you "left" this here rather than keeping it in your head. That's some pretty great self-care. It's also good that you are able to laugh at other's insanity. It can be easy to take this stuff to heart, but it's great when you can recognize that it's someone else's crap and not yours. I admire your ability to be kind to yourself.

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Re: There: 2019

Post by there » Mon Jun 17, 2019 9:39 pm

Thanks, Noname,
It does take that effort to remember that some comment isn’t mine. I’m not perfect at it, but it comes more easily than it did. It’s also just how the human brain works to focus on negative. I think I read that it takes recalling 4 positive events (or maybe even recalling the same good thing 4 times) to counter 1 negative image or thought.
We’re worth it!
“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.” Helen Keller

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Re: There: 2019

Post by Noname » Tue Jun 18, 2019 4:02 am

That's really interesting. It's funny (in a totally non-humorous way) how easily our brains grab onto the negative, but how hard it is to hang onto the positive.

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Re: There: 2019

Post by there » Thu Jun 20, 2019 5:47 pm

Hi, noname,
I needed the positivity reminder just now!

Am getting a lot done, making progress with circumstances, career stuff, and cleaner came.

organizer coming soon.
tomorrow have appt. about sect 8 voucher. Not sure why try it again because when I had a voucher before, apartment building was sold and new owner would not accept section 8. Luckily I got public housing. This whole thing is really triggering right now and I'm feeling like crying.
“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.” Helen Keller

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Re: There: 2019

Post by coconuts » Fri Jun 21, 2019 2:22 am

Oh... You have a lot going on right now there. Change is hard. It's scary and a tiny bit exciting. You are doing so much to work towards bettering. You are so strong.

Passes tissues..... Cry if you need to. You'll probably feel better after.

Here with you

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Re: There: 2019

Post by dancingfish » Fri Jun 21, 2019 9:03 am

Hey there, it sounds like you have a lot going on, without people making snarky remarks too. Good luck with the things! I think you can do it, you're mighty strong and resourceful. :) Pocket riding with you if you like. :)

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