How to say "no" to others?
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Naiwen
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How to say "no" to others?
I'm learning how to set my boundaries with guys and to say "no" to others and men especially so I'm not at all that triggered if a guy starts talking to me and etc. I've been groped, kissed and touched unwanted by many guys and often very old ones. Any tips for that?
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FrumSurvivor
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Re: How to say "no" to others?
Hi, Naiwen!
I don't know if this will be helpful, so feel free to keep or toss.
I find that body language speaks volumes. If you know you'll be around men, remind yourself "I am valuable and worthy. My body is my own property and nobody else's, so don't even think of touching me." Keeping these types of thoughts in mind helps us carry ourselves in a way that others respect, even if they aren't sure why.
Also, if someone gets too close, act incredulous. The fewer words the better. A raised eyebrow with an "EXCUSE me??" all while remembering in your own mind how valuable you are, can be very helpful.
Again - if this works for you, great, and if not, please do whatever you feel is best. At least you know I care and I tried.
Best of luck!!!!!
I don't know if this will be helpful, so feel free to keep or toss.
I find that body language speaks volumes. If you know you'll be around men, remind yourself "I am valuable and worthy. My body is my own property and nobody else's, so don't even think of touching me." Keeping these types of thoughts in mind helps us carry ourselves in a way that others respect, even if they aren't sure why.
Also, if someone gets too close, act incredulous. The fewer words the better. A raised eyebrow with an "EXCUSE me??" all while remembering in your own mind how valuable you are, can be very helpful.
Again - if this works for you, great, and if not, please do whatever you feel is best. At least you know I care and I tried.
Best of luck!!!!!
FrumSurvivor