I think it became a whole lot easier for me when i really understood that people are very very different. For every abuser who has an awareness of what they are doing, there will be an abuser who has no awareness and it is 'natural' to them. In the same way, for every person who insists they see a square, another will insist the same shape is a circle; for every person who believes terrorists attacked the twin towers, another will believe it was the government; for every person who believes man has landed on the moon, another will insist we have never even left Earth. Man is very very complex.Tamu wrote:Does he not need to be sorry for what he did?
Added to this, if an abuser does have an awareness, they may not have a conscious, be denying their conscious, have their own mental health problems, or just enjoy playing games.
Try not to focus on your abuser, he is not worth your effort. In reality you may never ever hear him say he is sorry. Forgiveness and understanding is about YOU finding your own way to move on, let go and find release - but only when you are ready.
Hope this helps.