The Great and Mighty Oak

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Fleur
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Re: The Great and Mighty Oak

Post by Fleur » Fri Dec 28, 2012 8:46 pm

Dear (((Fightinback)))

Once again I see how very wise you are, and how fortunate you have become insightful

All that you say is so positive

For me "past" also can be long gone or more recent - seems yo me to be consequence of flashbacks where stuff from decades ago feels like it occurs in present

A word of caution - my H tries his best tokeep me as I was when first wed. He can be very sneaky and I get cross as much with myself as anyone when I realise I have been hooked yet again

The broken record reallu does work. As you say, no reasons, just stick to script. It felt strange, unnatural for me when I started, but does eventually sink in to H's head that I am not biting

With my son, I do discuss reasons because he also, at 16, needs to work out why Mum allows one thing one time but not another. An example is curfew - son rides bike so I want him home before dark. In summer, sunset is late, so I want him home for dinner by 6:00. In winter, twilight is around 5:00, so I ask him to be home earlier. Without explanation, it would appear arbirary

My no.has always meant no. we talk, then no. without further ado - unless something else happens. The same with yes. But a maybe, or we'll see means we investigate before deciding

Your son sounds as though he has come through bullying very well. How stupid of the staff to not perceive the problem at previous school. Makes me wonder what type of person those students will become. You were astute and I am happy for both you and J that new school worked out - and J managed the bullying on his own. That is huge

My son, P, is not as mature as J in some respects. I am going to be doing tough love if/when I see him next month. Won't be pleasant for either of us, but hopefully will re-set his sleep pattern

My H , a former teacher, has not helped P develop study skills or self discipline, so I do my best to do this at each term break

You handled J's difficulties well - making appropriate decisions in covering for your XH but now helping J to learn about his Dad more openly

Thanks again for sharing Fighinback - appreciated

May we all stay mindful in present moment, which would indeed be a big milestone in healing
Onward to a safe community for all people in which to thrive ~ gentle hugs [if okay] ~ Fleur

HealingHearts
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Re: The Great and Mighty Oak

Post by HealingHearts » Wed Jan 16, 2013 2:47 pm

(((SW)))
You go girl!!!! So elated to read this thread. J is sure to be a mighty oak!
HH
Together we are stronger...

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Re: The Great and Mighty Oak

Post by jimscarlet » Sat Apr 13, 2013 6:30 pm

Hi Fighten,
I will not cover the things others have said.
I just wanted to tell you, you are a terrific mother!
Blessings,
jimscarlet :D
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fightinback
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Re: The Great and Mighty Oak

Post by fightinback » Sun Apr 14, 2013 2:35 pm

Jimscarlet

You wont know how much your response here and its' perfect timing means to me.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.


And a big thank you to everyone else who also responded.
FB Delicately changing my name because I don't need to fight anymore.

Be true to yourself
Never sacrifice who you are just because someone has a problem with it

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Re: The Great and Mighty Oak

Post by Fleur » Sun Apr 14, 2013 3:34 pm

Hello Fightinback
Just wanted to acknowledge your great signature motto
May you continue to be a great role model for those around you
Fleur
Onward to a safe community for all people in which to thrive ~ gentle hugs [if okay] ~ Fleur

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