Name Change

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audacious
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Name Change

Post by audacious » Wed Dec 26, 2012 12:35 am

Anyone change their name? How did it go, if so?
I'm thinking about changing my name eventually. It's funny, when I was younger I thought it was a silly thing to do. But I've never liked the name my mother gave me. She didn't give it much thought. I was named after a character from a television show she was watching in the hospital. And I don't even like the sound of it. Even if it wasn't my name, it would still be a name I disliked.
The basic rule of dysfunctional families everywhere: "Don't talk, don't trust, don't feel." And here we are talking, trusting, and feeling! Every time we do, it's a small victory.

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Re: Name Change

Post by Truth teller » Wed Dec 26, 2012 12:54 am

I am thinking of dropping my maiden name. Right now it is official hyphenated with my husband's last name. I was thinking I didn't want to disappear from who I had been prior to when I got married. Now the "maiden" name makes me think of my dad and I prefer to think of my husband. So I may change my last name officially with the state. It requires just a bit of paper work but will mean that all the signs and paperwork where I work will reflect the last name I share only with my husband.

Maybe next year?

Tt

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Re: Name Change

Post by VAC » Wed Dec 26, 2012 1:55 am

It is easy to do...contact the courthouse in the town in which you were born. Tell them you want to do a legal name change. Ask for the form with a source for examples. You will have to use legal terms, but they should provide examples.

It is about a two month process and will cost less than 100 at least in our state.

An attorney will be 500 up, unless you have a friend.

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Re: Name Change

Post by audacious » Wed Dec 26, 2012 7:31 pm

Truthteller,
I know what you mean, I kept my maiden name in part because it's pretty rare. But the small group it is affiliated with is one I don't want to be part of anymore.
Vac,
Thanks for the advice, glad to know it's simple.
Still not sure if I will go ahead with it. It's nice to know I have the freedom to do so.
Aud
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Re: Name Change

Post by fightinback » Wed Dec 26, 2012 8:36 pm

I don't know how it works in the us. I believe the uk position is easier :)

Just wanted to offer my support.

Always be true to yourself ;)
FB Delicately changing my name because I don't need to fight anymore.

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Re: Name Change

Post by Jonesy » Fri Dec 28, 2012 10:15 am

Hi audacious

I think a change of name sends a very profound message to yourself, and one that is entirely worth the bother.
Always be proud of who you are.
You are important

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Re: Name Change

Post by nomorevic » Thu Mar 21, 2013 5:49 pm

Hello,
I have recently changed my first name because I was named after my biological father who is a known
child molester. I had one "friend" who's reaction was very negative but so many more positive responses.
I feel better about my new name and that is all that matters. In the US, it cost me approximately 200 dollars with no attorney.

Good luck.

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Re: Name Change

Post by sensitive warrior » Sun Mar 24, 2013 11:16 am

Audacious, I changed my whole name, first, middle and last. I wanted nothing from my family and a new start. It wasn't that hard, less than $200 in the U.S. and no need for a lawyer. I hope you are able to change it to something meaningful to you.
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Re: Name Change

Post by FrumSurvivor » Sun Mar 24, 2013 8:22 pm

I don't know anything about name changes, but I do know that
I LOVE your quote!
FrumSurvivor

"Whatever doesn't kill you makes you STRONGER"

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Re: Name Change

Post by Yochana » Mon Mar 25, 2013 3:00 pm

I changed my surname a few years ago and it was scary and almost felt like a betrayal of my FOO in a way but it was a really positive thing in the end. It was helpful in a couple of ways - helped me make a kind of symbolic break from the FOO (though I still do love them) and it was quite freeing... And also helped me feel safer by putting a bit of distance in terms of making me harder to find because I have a different name? Though some of my family that I do still have limited contact with know i have a different name now so I'm not sure that really worked out, but even so it still kind of does make me feel safer.

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