I didn't freak out, and that's a big accomplishment

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BlueNeon
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I didn't freak out, and that's a big accomplishment

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A small, big things occurred to me some hours ago. I was talking about my abuser with my partner, I asked him to check his socials to see what he's doing in life and eventually to write his employer to let him know about the pending criminal process. I talked about it in a calm, reasonable way, I didn't feel any bad emotion and after we changed the topic, I totally forgot about him.
It's the first time in eleven years that I can talk or think about him without having a huge crisis of some kind. Kudos to me!
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Hey BlueNeon

That really does sound like you are due a huge round of applause - testament to your hard work.
And how fabulous that you have someone close to share all this with and to help you with the processing.
You are important

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Thank you, Jonesy. It really meant a lot to me.
You're right, I'm really lucky about this --he's the only good thing in my life, right now. I'd be completely alone without him.
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That's fabulous that you felt safe to talk about it and safe to let it go. What strength within you now. And how great to have support with you.
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I'm so glad you were able to speak of this without all manner of distress and upheaval. Bravo to you!
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Thank you both, Watercolor and coconuts!
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BlueNeon,
That’s great news! It’s a milestone, for sure.
Glad you were feeling calm about the subject when talking with your partner.
All women are beautiful. Period.
I deserve better than survival.
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