An area for new members to introduce themselves, as well as a place where all members can share concerns, questions or general posts.
Everyone is welcome here.
So, I joined this group when I saw how embracing everyone was and supporting. The more I see what stories others have to tell, the more I feel like my experiences don't deserve to have to much support and are of little concern.
I'm not one to do person to person support groups but I like online formats, plus my therapist thought it would be good. I'm still a newbie to opening up about what happened to me but I'm just wondering if maybe my experiences are valid enough to need support from here.
I'm complicated, what can you say.
"There should be no boundaries to human endeavor. However bad life may seem, while there is life, there is hope." - Stephen Hawking
Sherlocked, never doubt that yer experiences are JUST AS VALID, just as mind shattering as anyone elses here. Pls dont compare yers to others, its like comparin apples to motor oil. Whats important is how it affected ya, the impact on ya. Its about YER healin, YER journey, not ours.
Sendin gentle support
Last edited by Harmony on Sun Jul 21, 2019 10:26 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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Your experiences are definitely valid and you are deserving of support. Comparing is a tool used by many abusers. It works to minimize our pain. It embeds into our minds and we use it against ourselves. Trying to make our pain less valid. It's just not true. Each person carries their pain differently. Each story is different and each story impacts us in unique ways. It is part of our human nature. If you need support and healing and friendship. This is the place to find it. If you feel comfortable with it that is. It's a difficult place to be but a friendly one.
Agree with all of the rest. lots of wise words said in this post. You belong here without a doubt. I struggle with comparisons too. I have to stop myself. It doesn’t serve us to minimize our stories and so many of us tend to do just that. You are not alone and you definitely belong. Here to support you.
As the others have said, you shouldn't compare or ever feel as though you do not deserve to be here. We are all in similar yet completely different places with what happened to us.
From my experiences and how I perceived myself, I would find excuses and compare myself to others to validate to myself that I wasn't good enough for help, I would find excuses upon excuses to avoid opening up or saying that what happened to me wasn't worthy of speaking up about.
But you have come here, joined and that is the first step. No matter what happened, your story should be heard, just take it one day at a time, its your journey, your life and it is just as important as everyone else that is here.
Sending healing thoughts
Last edited by Serenity on Sat Jul 27, 2019 11:50 am, edited 1 time in total.
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Hi, I am Ginger and I am a new member as well. When my sisters and I started sharing our abuse stories, alll by the same person. Our dentist. One of my sisters said,”It wasn’t soo bad.” I found this so sad. It was bad, what he did to us was wrong and effected all of ours lives and self esteem negatively. I believe that people who seek out forums such as these, do it because we are searching for someone who understands. My husband was not abused, he would never find his way to this forum. I believe if you are searching for help in a childhood abuse forum and you found one. You are probably in the right place. I hope this forum helps us.
Last edited by Serenity on Sat Jul 27, 2019 11:50 am, edited 1 time in total.
Reason:Changed MT to NT as no triggering detail included
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