Hi
This weekend has been so destroying god your can pick your freinds but not your family..
I'm struggling with me and my husband so much it feels like we more housemates than anything else ...
And yes it will be down to me but since pandars box opened up I've changed so much
.our relationship is a no go I cant even sleep with him anymore I really cant do it sont want anyone close to me especially him ...
Hes done nothing wrong at all its all my doing so punish me .its would matter anymore as I really cant be hurt anymore than I am...
Been up mams and ended up full on blow up .I so close to spitting it out ..
Sexual abused by your brother my uncle who you now are his career and he so much around I hate it hate the pain he's caused and still is .I could do so much damage to him .but no I always seem to hurt myself instead...
Familys
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Re: Familys
Hi pepe
I've been down this road, but on your husband's side of it.
Pandora's box is indeed open, and it seems like it might be about time. You will survive this, and be better off for it.
The thing that saved us was communication. My wife told me what she could, and also set a limit that she could not tell me more at that time and please don't ask. I respected those boundaries. It was also helpful to communicate about intimacy. We agreed to take a break from intimacy for an indeterminate time, and it would continue until she clearly communicated something different. It seems like a lot, but honestly we probably shaved months or years off returning to intimacy just by avoiding the push-pull of asking and responding.
We live our lives without her abusers and enablers. Seems like it was a lot easier than we thought. Certainly a lot easier than dealing with them.
I've been down this road, but on your husband's side of it.
Pandora's box is indeed open, and it seems like it might be about time. You will survive this, and be better off for it.
The thing that saved us was communication. My wife told me what she could, and also set a limit that she could not tell me more at that time and please don't ask. I respected those boundaries. It was also helpful to communicate about intimacy. We agreed to take a break from intimacy for an indeterminate time, and it would continue until she clearly communicated something different. It seems like a lot, but honestly we probably shaved months or years off returning to intimacy just by avoiding the push-pull of asking and responding.
We live our lives without her abusers and enablers. Seems like it was a lot easier than we thought. Certainly a lot easier than dealing with them.