I'm looking for some advice
Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2017 12:33 pm
Hello everyone,
I joined this board because I'm looking for some advice. I know this girl from school, we're friendly, but we're not really friends. I would like to be, though. We get along really well. At one point she mentioned she was sexually abused as a child. I was shocked, I felt sad, I didn't know what to say. I didn't really get a chance to say something. We were at school and another classmate joined us in the hall.
I wanted to say something, be there for her. But it didn't feel right to bring it up again. I wanted to text her later. We all know how easy it is, easier than saying something to someone's face. But it just didn't feel right. I feel like, like it's not my place to start that conversation somehow. She might not want to think or talk about it at all.
It's hard to explain, really.. I have no idea what it's like, I have no idea what she's been through. But somehow I feel like she didn't tell me for nothing. The other day she sort of mentioned it again.
I'm really looking for some advice, like the do's en dont's. I know everyone is different, no one knows what she would prefer. But some general advice would be good. Like if it ever came up again, or I see an entrance in a conversation someday. I would like her to know I'm there for her, that I care.
What kind of questions are good to ask, to show interest? And what sort of questions are a total no go. Like what happened? When? How long? Who?
I joined this board because I'm looking for some advice. I know this girl from school, we're friendly, but we're not really friends. I would like to be, though. We get along really well. At one point she mentioned she was sexually abused as a child. I was shocked, I felt sad, I didn't know what to say. I didn't really get a chance to say something. We were at school and another classmate joined us in the hall.
I wanted to say something, be there for her. But it didn't feel right to bring it up again. I wanted to text her later. We all know how easy it is, easier than saying something to someone's face. But it just didn't feel right. I feel like, like it's not my place to start that conversation somehow. She might not want to think or talk about it at all.
It's hard to explain, really.. I have no idea what it's like, I have no idea what she's been through. But somehow I feel like she didn't tell me for nothing. The other day she sort of mentioned it again.
I'm really looking for some advice, like the do's en dont's. I know everyone is different, no one knows what she would prefer. But some general advice would be good. Like if it ever came up again, or I see an entrance in a conversation someday. I would like her to know I'm there for her, that I care.
What kind of questions are good to ask, to show interest? And what sort of questions are a total no go. Like what happened? When? How long? Who?